#162 FROM THE VAULT: How to deal with dissatisfaction in your choir

Comments on #162 FROM THE VAULT: How to deal with dissatisfaction in your choir

  1. Avatar Alison Mitchell says:

    This has really helped me. Thank you ladies…
    I think that really, it’s time to put on my big girl pants and just get on with it. It’s all really just the same stuff for me. Stop listening to the ‘fanatic in the attic’ which keeps telling me that I am that ‘imposter’, take a deep breath and have the courage of my convictions.
    A great tip about waiting before reacting and giving thought to the way in which to respond.

    1. Avatar Victoria Hopkins says:

      So glad the episode was useful to you Alison.

  2. Avatar Jenny Smith says:

    Thanks Victoria and Christine,
    I have just heard that if i put a certain song on a songlist one more time there will be a mutiny and yet I have not picked up on this displeasure. It is strange that it is hard to know from out the front what people are thinking. It is a good point that you make to plan thoughtfully, have reasons for why you do what you do. Then we can listen to the derision and still keep to our guns!

    1. Avatar Victoria Hopkins says:

      I think sometimes our singers think we’re telepathic and should know a lot of stuff without them actually telling us!

  3. Avatar Jane Legg says:

    Thankyou for this podcast, I wondered if you can give a little advice on a general problem, we have a mail member whi no one likes, some of us have lunch after choir and he has started coming and it is not a pleasure anymore, without telling him directly we dont want him there, we dint know what to do. Any ideas please lol. Jane in Bournemouth xx

    1. Avatar Victoria Hopkins says:

      Hi Jane. That sounds like a thorny problem. I think that, as in so many uncomfortable situations relating to a clash of personalities, you have a stark choice: say something or say nothing. If your lunches are open to the whole choir, you may think it inappropriate to exclude him. If not, you could make arrangements without informing him. I think that’s the simple answer, but perhaps not an easy one.

      Jane, as a member of Community Choir Professionals, don’t forget that you have access to our community forum, which is a great place get specific help in a private, supportive environment.

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